There are several cohousing communities being developed in FL, NC, SC, CO and WA that want to include families of children with special needs. I just wrote an article on Northstreet Neighborhood and neurodiverse cohousing here: http://www.autismhousingnetwork.org/neurodiverse-cohousing-matter/
One of the BIG issues you will need to explore if you can not private pay for care is if you are considering moving out of state… you can not bring your waiver with you! Make sure whatever state you are exploring has a waiver to meet the needs of your daughter, AND ask how long is the waitlist for that waiver.
The Housing Directory is expanding everyday, so please continue to check back and use the ‘Cohousing’ filter under the ‘Property Types’ category to find more cohousing options: http://www.autismhousingnetwork.org/housing/